Yoyoing....(break up, redux part infinity)
Today I am convinced that breaking up was a mistake. I miss him terribly and just want to get back together.
*sigh*
Make up your mind already, brain.
Ciao,
g
*sigh*
Make up your mind already, brain.
Ciao,
g
posted by Girl at 12:13 pm
3 Comments:
Hmmm... well, we all yoyo about stuff like this. Take another look at the "facts" of the case. To what extent did you and he have mutually aligned goals? (i.e. You and he want the same things.) In reality, a relationship of any description ONLY exists where you and the other person want the same thing, or the things that you want are aligned (i.e. not the same but support each other).
Next question. Were any of the things that you wanted or he wanted total deal breakers? i.e. You want to get married and settle down and he wants to travel the world white water rafting.
Cos, see, if you get those things really straight, what they let you see is where you and he can actually honour the affection that you feel for each other. If you realise that the only mutually alligned goal that the two of you have is to go bowling once a month, then that's what you do. If you realise that almost everything in your lives lines up, then nail him to the floor!
If you realise that actually, there is no alignement, then you can just feel the sadness, let it go, and move on to the next one knowing a lot more about what actually matters to you.
Oh, and have a whacking great big hug while I'm at it. I do tend to lecture as a way of offering affection and support!
That's totally normal. Focus on the reasons why you broke up instead of pining for the good times.
Yah, I do try...I just have this irritating habit of torturing myself- looking at pictures of him, etc. This morning I stupidly smelled his hair gel...bah!
Thanks for the support guys!
g
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